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Where did we learn our childhood games? Hide and Seek, A Tisket, a Tasket, a green and yellow basket…Red Light…Follow The Leader.

Some of them maybe we learned form teachers at school, but I don’t remember any teachers at recess-not teaching games. They were sitting in the sun with the other teachers, talking or reading, watching us to make sure no one misbehaved. But I don’t remember a lesson that explained the meaning of the words, “You’re It!”

We played dodge ball in the dirt road between our house and my best friend’s house. We lived in the country, and our little neighborhood boasted a lot of children. My brother was older, and a Boy Scout. He taught us how to build a fire and the right way to roast marshmallows. He told us skin prickling ghost stories. He sometimes told us of his adventures on Boy Scout Camporees, but not often. I don’t remember him explaining the intricacies of dodge ball. I do remember he showed up a time or two when someone threatened to break the rules, or when someone small was getting bashed too often. My brother didn’t suffer bullies.

But I still don’t remember an actual lesson in childhood games, yet I see them being played all around me. The same shouts, the same rules, the same unbridled glee at slapping someone’s arm and shouting “You’re It!” Watching children at recess in a nearby schoolyard recently brought so many bright, tender memories to mind that I hated to leave.

I have often despaired of children missing out on the benefits of playing outdoor games, real playing. So many children never go outside in their own neighborhoods except to get to the car. And I despise the practice of small children being hypnotized by computer games that keep them locked in a solitary fantasy world. But then I watched these children in a local schoolyard and I felt some of that sadness lift. Maybe there are still games passed through some kind of primal childhood osmosis so strong, so important, and so much FUN that they will always be with children lucky enough to have recess.


The Shelves

He allowed her to borrow his comics. “Don’t spill anything on ’em. And don’t draw on ‘em. Bring ‘em back when you’re done. Don’t tell Mama about the ones on the bottom.” Jessie only gave her those instructions once. Lacy knew her big brother Jessie, at fourteen, barely acknowledged the existence of a ten-year-old sister. She, in turn, idolized him so she never pushed past the boundaries so firmly set.

She knocked before entering his room, even when she knew he wasn’t there. Like God, she believed her brother knew everything and knocking first was Law in his world.

In his room the bookshelves ran floor to ceiling, and he’d built them himself. They were mostly scrapwood he refused to let her paint, though she’d offered wistfully during the evenings he’s spent hammering and cursing. Their mother worked at the hospital in the evenings, so she didn’t know about the shelves until they were a part of his room. He’d proudly displayed them to show her how he could help in other parts of the house, like the broken porch rail. Lacey had been gleeful at the thought of her mother’s happy surprise, had helped stuff his books and comics and boyhood paraphernalia into her own closet-sized room. They’d scrubbed his room spotless, made the bed (she couldn’t remember ever seeing it that way before) and waited up for their mother’s return Saturday night, a year ago. His mother had stared, speechless, at the tiny room made smaller by bookshelves that covered every wall save the length of his single bed.

Now, Lacey sat on the floor and started sifting through a new stack of comics. She looked up at the shelves, sorry that Jessie hadn’t let her paint them. Maybe it would have helped.

“Oh, Jessie,” her mother had said, her head swiveling from side to side, her mouth open. “You made these?”

“Well, I borrowed some tools from Mr. Jackson, the shop teacher. He let me cut most everything on the saw at school.”

“I offered to paint them,” Lacey blurted and stopped. She looked at the floor, as Jessie’s eyes flashed at her. She knew she was only a girl and ten. Jessie was supposed to take care of her and that meant she didn’t help make anything.

“Jessie… we rent this house. We can’t build anything onto it. You’ve attached the shelves to the walls. Mr. Garner may or may not like them, but that isn’t the point. This isn’t our house…” her voice trailed away and she put one dry hand on Jessie’s shoulder. He flinched and moved away. His jaw set and his lips flattened together. He shoved his hand into the pockets of his jeans. Lacey wished she hadn’t said anything about the paint. She loved the colors of the wood. Jessie had used different wood, whatever Mr. Jackson gave him – pine, maple, even one shelf of cherry.

“Honey, I’ll talk to Mr. Garner, I’ll make sure he knows you did a wonderful job and that everything is finished and sturdy. Maybe he won’t mind.”

Jessie never said anything – it wasn’t his way. Even when Daddy died and Jessie found him, he didn’t say anything. The shelves stayed, but Mr. Garner made it clear Jessie wasn’t to go “hammering and nailing on somebody else’s walls.”

A year later, Lacey gathered up an armful of her brother’s favorites – Fantastic Four, Superman, Batman – and sneaked a peek at ones on the bottom. Mostly naked girls. She crinkled her nose. She moved to stand and dropped the stack, slick magazines sliding everywhere, under the single bed.

Under the bed. She didn’t have to be told not to go there. Now, she snaked her hand far enough to grasp the edge of her Batman comic.

And out dropped a small box. Small enough to fit in a pocket.

She picked it up and pulled the top off without thinking. Tiny dice rolled out.
At ten, a voracious reader and listener, she knew the dice meant only one thing. Jessie was running down the same path that had claimed the life of their Daddy.

She knew the dice in the box must have appeared when Jessie’s attempts to improve the house were rebuffed. The house that wasn’t their house.

She picked up the little box and pushed it into the pocket of her jeans, gathered up the comics and left, carefully closing the door behind her. She knew he’d never ask her for it – she knew in the way she knew her mother would never look through Jessie’s comics.

Lacey felt the subtle shift in her world, the way it had shifted when her Daddy decided he didn’t want to be her Daddy anymore. She knew it had something to do with the little dice. Maybe she could figure it out if she held on to the talisman, the dice, long enough.